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It's Not Divorce by Operation-Villainous It's Not Divorce by Operation-Villainous
This stamp is in response to "Tape It Back Together" by `yuumei and all of the comments that condemn divorce.

`yuumei has described how her life has been ruined because of her mother re-marrying a horrid beast of man with his equally horrid children, thus she blames divorce allowing it to happen in the first place.

The thing is, she says she was perfectly all right with the divorce - it was the re-marrying that she had a problem with.

So, logically, wouldn't you have a problem with hasty marriages that were originally founded on superficial reasons?

A lot of people are saying that divorce should be made illegal or at least really difficult to obtain if the reasons for divorce aren't because of infidelity or physical abuse because it's almost always a grueling, dragged out process that only serves to punish the children in the end.

By restricting access to divorce you are only attempting to cure the symptom and not the disease itself.

And the disease is irresponsible marriages.

Society teaches us at a very early age that marriage is the only thing that can make you truly happy in life - that if you're not married, you're not living up to all of the things life gives you.

Not only that, but the next one is having children. If you're not having children, then you're being selfish and you're choosing to miss out on the "beauty" of being a parent.

What I'm saying is: Don't blame divorce. Divorce is possibly the most responsible thing your parents could ever do after years of irresponsible, selfish, and uneducated decisions concerning their lives and your life.

To take away the option for them to get a divorce because they made a mistake and because it will make you unhappy is to only allow hatred and resentment to fester between them, thus only making it worse for everyone. If they're unhappy, why would you force them to stay together? To do so would be to take you selfish.

Instead of advocating against divorce when it's considered a Godsend to nearly 50% of all U.S. marriages, you should be advocating for proper education on marital and parental life so that people don't get married on a whim. And if people waited to get married (and have children), there would not be such a high demand for divorce.
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Xx-MayhemOnMisery-xX Featured By Owner 1 day ago   Digital Artist
EXACTLY.
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TotallyDeviantLisa Featured By Owner Edited 3 days ago  Hobbyist General Artist
Well said, O.V. And I think ending up getting divorced and irresponsible marriage is why some couples in my country have kids without getting actually married first. I think having kids without actually marrying the mommy or daddy first is A okay, as long has you've been with the mom or dad for a long time and you are both responsible enough to be parents, which I think is pre-martial sex done right. As for marrying another person...I think it is a step to fixing what made you break up with your previous lover...or a healthier love life. :)
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PlusHeight4PlusGut Featured By Owner Jul 20, 2014  New member Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Well said.
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Midnyte-Wolff Featured By Owner Jul 15, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
OH GOD YES! Thank you!
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InfinityYellowA Featured By Owner Jul 14, 2014
Thank you!! I told my grandmother that I didn't want children and she said I was selfish!!! Now I love my grandmother and all that but even I knew that was f- uped!!
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WhatsInAName99 Featured By Owner May 18, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
Sadly, I did this very thing.  I got married at 17 (which is allowed with parental consent in my state) and he was eighteen.  We had only been dating for two years, during which time we were both still in highschool.  We had a child way too soon and divorced 2 1/2 years after she was born.  I can say honestly, as someone who made this very mistake, please people, DON'T Get married straight out of Highschool and please wait until your solid in your marriage to have children.  Learn from the mistakes of myself and many others like me.

I love my daughter, though.  I wouldn't trade her for the world.  I hope she learns from the mistakes I made and doesn't grow up to make the same ones.    
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TotallyDeviantLisa Featured By Owner Edited 3 days ago  Hobbyist General Artist
Marriage sure is a big thing. Good for you for learning to be more responsible with commitments. I'm still waiting for my time. :)
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FeralCity Featured By Owner May 18, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I applaud this. It makes too much sense.
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TotallyDeviantLisa Featured By Owner 3 days ago  Hobbyist General Artist
Never too much. ;)
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starlywing Featured By Owner Apr 25, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
ha! people can experience the "beauty" of being a parent by adopting!
plus, it prevents your organs from being messed up and displaced during pregnancy
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