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It's Not Divorce by Operation-Villainous It's Not Divorce by Operation-Villainous
This stamp is in response to "Tape It Back Together" by `yuumei and all of the comments that condemn divorce.

`yuumei has described how her life has been ruined because of her mother re-marrying a horrid beast of man with his equally horrid children, thus she blames divorce allowing it to happen in the first place.

The thing is, she says she was perfectly all right with the divorce - it was the re-marrying that she had a problem with.

So, logically, wouldn't you have a problem with hasty marriages that were originally founded on superficial reasons?

A lot of people are saying that divorce should be made illegal or at least really difficult to obtain if the reasons for divorce aren't because of infidelity or physical abuse because it's almost always a grueling, dragged out process that only serves to punish the children in the end.

By restricting access to divorce you are only attempting to cure the symptom and not the disease itself.

And the disease is irresponsible marriages.

Society teaches us at a very early age that marriage is the only thing that can make you truly happy in life - that if you're not married, you're not living up to all of the things life gives you.

Not only that, but the next one is having children. If you're not having children, then you're being selfish and you're choosing to miss out on the "beauty" of being a parent.

What I'm saying is: Don't blame divorce. Divorce is possibly the most responsible thing your parents could ever do after years of irresponsible, selfish, and uneducated decisions concerning their lives and your life.

To take away the option for them to get a divorce because they made a mistake and because it will make you unhappy is to only allow hatred and resentment to fester between them, thus only making it worse for everyone. If they're unhappy, why would you force them to stay together? To do so would be to take you selfish.

Instead of advocating against divorce when it's considered a Godsend to nearly 50% of all U.S. marriages, you should be advocating for proper education on marital and parental life so that people don't get married on a whim. And if people waited to get married (and have children), there would not be such a high demand for divorce.
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AgraelLPS Featured By Owner Mar 23, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Definitely!And the worst part about it is what happens to their children :-< It makes me sad to think of what this generation will be in fifteen years...They really need someone to care about them and love them,but if their parent act like that,they're gonna focus on it and won't notice peole who really care...Aaah,no wonder teenagers are commiting suicide at younger and younger age,unfortunately ;-(

Be a solution,not a part of the problem: marry ONLY if you truly love someone and trust them to the end,there should be no other option!Save your kids from heartaches <3
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LadyTroodon Featured By Owner Jun 26, 2017  Hobbyist Writer
I'm so glad I have my parents' relationship as an example of what a healthy marriage looks like. 
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RailTraxx Featured By Owner Jan 30, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
Finally! Someone who understands about today's problems with modern relationships.
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LarkspurRamos Featured By Owner Nov 22, 2016
marrying
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Hollyshade09 Featured By Owner Oct 17, 2016  Student General Artist
It's not like this all te time you know? :/
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:iconaddictedtosandwiches:
Agreed!
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axris Featured By Owner Jun 26, 2016  Student Artist
step 1: seduce man
step 2: marry man
step 3: inherit man's income
step 4: get bored of new husband
step 5: arrange "accident" 
step 6: repeat 1-5
step 7: ???
step 8: i'm now rich <3
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Noinq Featured By Owner Jun 17, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I know a friend that needs this stamp. she says she's going to be "happy" in life because she will get married and have (and she said this) 2 kids. My other friend plans to live with cats, and I'll probably just live alone in an apartment.
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Shellquake Featured By Owner May 10, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
The reason why married people divorce is because most of them have no common interests, which makes them different from each other.
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Randamu-Chan Featured By Owner Apr 26, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
True.
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commander-rolex Featured By Owner Dec 27, 2015
Agreed. The problem is sex outside marriage. If its taboo, then People are only getting married so they can have sex!
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AlphaLordCalypso Featured By Owner Dec 25, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
So using this.
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star3catcher Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2015
I agree whole-heartedly. I believe it stems from the fact that we're a very spoiled generation with unreasonable expectations of others. People think marriage is like a date that lasts forever, when it's the furthest thing. Marriage is work.
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Mysterious-Equine Featured By Owner Sep 26, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Divorce being the problem? Hell no, I should be GLAD my parents divorced. I was the one to break up fights between my parents when it got violent since I was 6. I definetly agree with this stamp.
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artestami Featured By Owner Jul 29, 2015  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I have never been able to hold a conversation with my biological dad. He left just after my brother's first birthday, when I was two and a half. I never will get to ask him whybecause I wont stalk him down...

but my mother said she loved him and was so happy to marry him.She loved him even afyer they divorced. They dated for about three years, and it was not hasty.
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KasaiNeko42a Featured By Owner Jul 29, 2015
It's so common that at times I end up assuming someone has divorced parents without knowing the truth.

Ever since my parents annulled, and both still wanted me, so I go back and forth and back and forth and back and forth, it's been terrible. Schedules change like clothes, and I'm so used to being the only person in the room that I don't act too well around others to the point of not wanting them around.
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RoseRedFlower Featured By Owner Jul 24, 2015
The only reason my parents got together was because they had sex and ended up having me. It was a pretty loveless marriage. The most they did together was sleep in the same bed together. That's it.
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JadetheProxy Featured By Owner Feb 12, 2016  Student Digital Artist
mine too....
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TwistedNights Featured By Owner Jul 18, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
When you choose who you're going to marry,marry a person you truly love. Also,as long as don't marry too young it should be fine.

My parents just 'split up' rather then divorce(as they did not want to go through all the paperwork) when I was 6 as they didn't love each other anymore. I was so against my mother dating another man but I stopped caring as I got older,and at least I got to see my dad a lot even though I lived with my mom. My dad ended up dating another women,who I don't like mind you. Sometimes divorce is the best option and should indeed stay legal.

The thing is,if more people married out of love then superficial reasons,the divorce rate would be lower. You also have to know the person you're marrying well. Otherwise,it won't turn out well. At least date for a few months to a few years before marriage.
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MarioSonicPeace Featured By Owner Jul 17, 2015
I completely agree. People need TO BE CAREFUL with who they choose for a life partner. 
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Creative-Chai Featured By Owner Jul 11, 2015  Student Digital Artist
This is absolutely correct!

I had a friend, who's father is divorced, but has married 4 other women and dated countless more. He gets married, for about 2 months it begins to go badly then -BOOM- divorce. Just recently he divorced with another woman! Now dating again!
Like seriously, find a good partner and stay with him/her! Don't just pointlessly marry someone without fully knowing him/her! 
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DragonOfEvil Featured By Owner Jun 5, 2015  Hobbyist Artist
YES x1000!
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SuperToon357 Featured By Owner May 18, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
To paraphrase Louie C.K., divorce is actually kind of a good thing, seeing as no good marriage ends in divorce
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llazzi Featured By Owner May 18, 2015  Hobbyist
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Hellsing4lyfe Featured By Owner May 9, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
YEah....my parents only married because my dad wanted a trophy wife (my mother is quite beautiful on the outside-inside, she was a bitch but now she is trying to do better) and my mom wanted sex. Dad divorced her when mom gained a few pounds after having three kids ---____---
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Torchu325 Featured By Owner Apr 4, 2015  Hobbyist Filmographer
Irresponsible marriage and/or a lack of communication in said marriage.
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WonderWolf14 Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2015  Student General Artist
I think anyone who marries and divorces after at least 4 years are irresponsible. My parents have been married for 15 years and they still love each other.
Although these past few years have been rough, but my mom has faith that her marriage will last till the day she dies.
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Creative-Chai Featured By Owner Jul 11, 2015  Student Digital Artist
That is good! My parents have been married for a long time as well, and things are still good!
Sure theres the rough times, but rough times pass! :D
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WonderWolf14 Featured By Owner Jul 13, 2015  Student General Artist
Yep. XD
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Creative-Chai Featured By Owner Jul 13, 2015  Student Digital Artist
Yea :D
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Quibbledink Featured By Owner Jul 1, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
That is beautiful. That was a breath of fresh air to read.
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WonderWolf14 Featured By Owner Jul 7, 2015  Student General Artist
Thank you!
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Randime Featured By Owner Jan 25, 2015  Student General Artist
The biggest problem is that people today are not passionate enough to FULLY get to know their partner anymore. It's mostly about sex and unnecessary breeding now.  
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Robotic-Mind Featured By Owner Jan 19, 2015
Irresponsible marriages.
*Cough* Zeus and Hera *Cough*
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BadassBlaziken Featured By Owner Jan 26, 2016
They had kids who married each other
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alex674 Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
You have earned a chocolate bar:iconchocolatebarplz:
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Robotic-Mind Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2015
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BirbinSpace Featured By Owner Feb 26, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
:iconfreeinternetplz:

...sorry, I had to. XD
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Robotic-Mind Featured By Owner Feb 26, 2015
Lol.
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WhitePedal25 Featured By Owner Jan 7, 2015
That is exactly what I've been thinking for years! At first growing up I thought divorce was a horrible thing, but now I realized that the reason divorce is sky-rocketing is because people are getting married and having children for selfish reasons like having money, fitting into society and using kids as pawns.

Society keeps saying marriage and children will make you happy, but in reality it will make other people who aren't in that situation happy because with marriage they will have the next generation to spew their lies and bullcrap at and it will only benefit them because that's the norm we've been taught since birth.

That's when I realize that divorce is a good thing because if two people are in a miserable marriage, regardless of the situation, why even bother staying when it will kill them inside. And if they have kids what will being in an unhappy marriage teach them when they grow up and get into a relationship? That you must stay for the kids no matter what even if it will hurt the kids seeing their parents fight and say they hate each other or if they are childless it's the right thing to do anyways? That to me is awful.

While marriage can be a good thing for people who love each other, divorce is a grand thing when the marriage is so toxic it can ruin lives and divorce is the option that can save everyone the pain and misery.

But the problem won't stop until parents stop telling their daughters to marry a man if he has a lot of money as well as get pregnant to trap him and when they stop telling boys to marry a woman if she's attractive without getting to know her, and educate them about what love is and that it's a good reason to be with someone.
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snowpuff77 Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2015  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Fair-argued point. I used to get so angry when I heard someone's parents were getting a divorce. It's like they woke up one day, decided they were bored with marriage, took it for granted, and only thought of themselves, and neglected the kids' feelings. Today I understand that's not always the case. Divorce can result from infidelity, abuse, hardheartedness, and being deceived by the other's character. Marrying irresponsibly is foolish indeed too; not getting your finances in order, thinking you can "change" a loser after marriage, not even liking the in-laws, or "patching up" a relationship via the "baby trap." I would like to get married, but want to marry a good man, and make it last...
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Midnight-Splash Featured By Owner Dec 30, 2014  Student General Artist
My parents......
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Crazyaniknowit Featured By Owner Dec 14, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
This is wisdom right here!! :tears: "So...beautiful..." :iconsobeautifulplz:
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ImdaBatman Featured By Owner Nov 19, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Words of the wise
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SplashyLove Featured By Owner Nov 18, 2014
thank you!
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ColourTraveller Featured By Owner Aug 16, 2014  Student General Artist
I am child of divorced parent. I agree with this, my parent kinda rushed through marriage, I don't know why My mother when ahead with this marriage if she was heistant in first place. but only thing that I am glad about is they married in first place, because I exist and does my sister, otherwise, I hates them for marrying irresponsiblie My entire childhood is ruined by divorce. 
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CherylBlanche Featured By Owner Aug 8, 2014
According to her comics in general, her parents moved on from divorce and started to neglect her because she was a remnant of a failed marriage to them, to the point where they were emotionally abusive. If they had been together, they would have been miserable and probably only shown affection superficially. Parents that love their children don't suddenly hate them when they get a divorce. And I'm a very strong advocate of what you said, finding someone you can really love, and never forcing yourself to "settle". It's a waste of life.
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Xx-MayhemOnMisery-xX Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2014   Digital Artist
EXACTLY.
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TotallyDeviantLisa Featured By Owner Edited Jul 26, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Well said, O.V. And I think ending up getting divorced and irresponsible marriage is why some couples in my country have kids without getting actually married first. I think having kids without actually marrying the mommy or daddy first is A okay, as long has you've been with the mom or dad for a long time and you are both responsible enough to be parents, which I think is pre-martial sex done right. As for marrying another person...I think it is a step to fixing what made you break up with your previous lover...or a healthier love life. :)
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PlusHeight4PlusGut Featured By Owner Jul 20, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Well said.
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