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It's Not Divorce by Operation-Villainous It's Not Divorce by Operation-Villainous
This stamp is in response to "Tape It Back Together" by `yuumei and all of the comments that condemn divorce.

`yuumei has described how her life has been ruined because of her mother re-marrying a horrid beast of man with his equally horrid children, thus she blames divorce allowing it to happen in the first place.

The thing is, she says she was perfectly all right with the divorce - it was the re-marrying that she had a problem with.

So, logically, wouldn't you have a problem with hasty marriages that were originally founded on superficial reasons?

A lot of people are saying that divorce should be made illegal or at least really difficult to obtain if the reasons for divorce aren't because of infidelity or physical abuse because it's almost always a grueling, dragged out process that only serves to punish the children in the end.

By restricting access to divorce you are only attempting to cure the symptom and not the disease itself.

And the disease is irresponsible marriages.

Society teaches us at a very early age that marriage is the only thing that can make you truly happy in life - that if you're not married, you're not living up to all of the things life gives you.

Not only that, but the next one is having children. If you're not having children, then you're being selfish and you're choosing to miss out on the "beauty" of being a parent.

What I'm saying is: Don't blame divorce. Divorce is possibly the most responsible thing your parents could ever do after years of irresponsible, selfish, and uneducated decisions concerning their lives and your life.

To take away the option for them to get a divorce because they made a mistake and because it will make you unhappy is to only allow hatred and resentment to fester between them, thus only making it worse for everyone. If they're unhappy, why would you force them to stay together? To do so would be to take you selfish.

Instead of advocating against divorce when it's considered a Godsend to nearly 50% of all U.S. marriages, you should be advocating for proper education on marital and parental life so that people don't get married on a whim. And if people waited to get married (and have children), there would not be such a high demand for divorce.
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KasaiNeko42a Featured By Owner 15 hours ago
It's so common that at times I end up assuming someone has divorced parents without knowing the truth.

Ever since my parents annulled, and both still wanted me, so I go back and forth and back and forth and back and forth, it's been terrible. Schedules change like clothes, and I'm so used to being the only person in the room that I don't act too well around others to the point of not wanting them around.
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RoseRedFlower Featured By Owner 4 days ago
The only reason my parents got together was because they had sex and ended up having me. It was a pretty loveless marriage. The most they did together was sleep in the same bed together. That's it.
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TwistedNights Featured By Owner Jul 18, 2015
When you choose who you're going to marry,marry a person you truly love. Also,as long as don't marry too young it should be fine.

My parents just 'split up' rather then divorce(as they did not want to go through all the paperwork) when I was 6 as they didn't love each other anymore. I was so against my mother dating another man but I stopped caring as I got older,and at least I got to see my dad a lot even though I lived with my mom. My dad ended up dating another women,who I don't like mind you. Sometimes divorce is the best option and should indeed stay legal.

The thing is,if more people married out of love then superficial reasons,the divorce rate would be lower. You also have to know the person you're marrying well. Otherwise,it won't turn out well. At least date for a few months to a few years before marriage.
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MarioSonicPeace Featured By Owner Jul 17, 2015
I completely agree. People need TO BE CAREFUL with who they choose for a life partner. 
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midnighteclipse02 Featured By Owner Jul 11, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
This is absolutely correct!

I had a friend, who's father is divorced, but has married 4 other women and dated countless more. He gets married, for about 2 months it begins to go badly then -BOOM- divorce. Just recently he divorced with another woman! Now dating again!
Like seriously, find a good partner and stay with him/her! Don't just pointlessly marry someone without fully knowing him/her! 
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DragonOfEvil Featured By Owner Jun 5, 2015  Hobbyist Artist
YES x1000!
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SuperToon357 Featured By Owner May 18, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
To paraphrase Louie C.K., divorce is actually kind of a good thing, seeing as no good marriage ends in divorce
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llazzi Featured By Owner May 18, 2015  Hobbyist
:iconclapsplz:
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Hellsing4lyfe Featured By Owner May 9, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
YEah....my parents only married because my dad wanted a trophy wife (my mother is quite beautiful on the outside-inside, she was a bitch but now she is trying to do better) and my mom wanted sex. Dad divorced her when mom gained a few pounds after having three kids ---____---
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Torchu325 Featured By Owner Apr 4, 2015  Hobbyist Filmographer
Irresponsible marriage and/or a lack of communication in said marriage.
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WonderWolf14 Featured By Owner Feb 11, 2015  Student General Artist
I think anyone who marries and divorces after at least 4 years are irresponsible. My parents have been married for 15 years and they still love each other.
Although these past few years have been rough, but my mom has faith that her marriage will last till the day she dies.
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midnighteclipse02 Featured By Owner Jul 11, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
That is good! My parents have been married for a long time as well, and things are still good!
Sure theres the rough times, but rough times pass! :D
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WonderWolf14 Featured By Owner Jul 13, 2015  Student General Artist
Yep. XD
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midnighteclipse02 Featured By Owner Jul 13, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Yea :D
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Clarentinthia Featured By Owner Jul 1, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
That is beautiful. That was a breath of fresh air to read.
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WonderWolf14 Featured By Owner Jul 7, 2015  Student General Artist
Thank you!
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Randime Featured By Owner Jan 25, 2015  Student General Artist
The biggest problem is that people today are not passionate enough to FULLY get to know their partner anymore. It's mostly about sex and unnecessary breeding now.  
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Robotic-Mind Featured By Owner Jan 19, 2015
Irresponsible marriages.
*Cough* Zeus and Hera *Cough*
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alex674 Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
You have earned a chocolate bar:iconchocolatebarplz:
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Robotic-Mind Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2015
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Marine-Starss Featured By Owner Feb 26, 2015  Student Digital Artist
:iconfreeinternetplz:

...sorry, I had to. XD
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Robotic-Mind Featured By Owner Feb 26, 2015
Lol.
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WhitePedal25 Featured By Owner Jan 7, 2015
That is exactly what I've been thinking for years! At first growing up I thought divorce was a horrible thing, but now I realized that the reason divorce is sky-rocketing is because people are getting married and having children for selfish reasons like having money, fitting into society and using kids as pawns.

Society keeps saying marriage and children will make you happy, but in reality it will make other people who aren't in that situation happy because with marriage they will have the next generation to spew their lies and bullcrap at and it will only benefit them because that's the norm we've been taught since birth.

That's when I realize that divorce is a good thing because if two people are in a miserable marriage, regardless of the situation, why even bother staying when it will kill them inside. And if they have kids what will being in an unhappy marriage teach them when they grow up and get into a relationship? That you must stay for the kids no matter what even if it will hurt the kids seeing their parents fight and say they hate each other or if they are childless it's the right thing to do anyways? That to me is awful.

While marriage can be a good thing for people who love each other, divorce is a grand thing when the marriage is so toxic it can ruin lives and divorce is the option that can save everyone the pain and misery.

But the problem won't stop until parents stop telling their daughters to marry a man if he has a lot of money as well as get pregnant to trap him and when they stop telling boys to marry a woman if she's attractive without getting to know her, and educate them about what love is and that it's a good reason to be with someone.
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snowpuff77 Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2015
Fair-argued point. I used to get so angry when I heard someone's parents were getting a divorce. It's like they woke up one day, decided they were bored with marriage, took it for granted, and only thought of themselves, and neglected the kids' feelings. Today I understand that's not always the case. Divorce can result from infidelity, abuse, hardheartedness, and being deceived by the other's character. Marrying irresponsibly is foolish indeed too; not getting your finances in order, thinking you can "change" a loser after marriage, not even liking the in-laws, or "patching up" a relationship via the "baby trap." I would like to get married, but want to marry a good man, and make it last...
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Midnight-Splash Featured By Owner Dec 30, 2014  Student General Artist
My parents......
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Crazyaniknowit Featured By Owner Dec 14, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
This is wisdom right here!! :tears: "So...beautiful..." :iconsobeautifulplz:
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ImdaBatman Featured By Owner Nov 19, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Words of the wise
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SplashyLove Featured By Owner Nov 18, 2014
thank you!
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ColourTraveller Featured By Owner Aug 16, 2014  Student General Artist
I am child of divorced parent. I agree with this, my parent kinda rushed through marriage, I don't know why My mother when ahead with this marriage if she was heistant in first place. but only thing that I am glad about is they married in first place, because I exist and does my sister, otherwise, I hates them for marrying irresponsiblie My entire childhood is ruined by divorce. 
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CherylBlanche Featured By Owner Aug 8, 2014
According to her comics in general, her parents moved on from divorce and started to neglect her because she was a remnant of a failed marriage to them, to the point where they were emotionally abusive. If they had been together, they would have been miserable and probably only shown affection superficially. Parents that love their children don't suddenly hate them when they get a divorce. And I'm a very strong advocate of what you said, finding someone you can really love, and never forcing yourself to "settle". It's a waste of life.
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Xx-MayhemOnMisery-xX Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2014   Digital Artist
EXACTLY.
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TotallyDeviantLisa Featured By Owner Edited Jul 26, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Well said, O.V. And I think ending up getting divorced and irresponsible marriage is why some couples in my country have kids without getting actually married first. I think having kids without actually marrying the mommy or daddy first is A okay, as long has you've been with the mom or dad for a long time and you are both responsible enough to be parents, which I think is pre-martial sex done right. As for marrying another person...I think it is a step to fixing what made you break up with your previous lover...or a healthier love life. :)
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PlusHeight4PlusGut Featured By Owner Jul 20, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Well said.
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Midnyte-Wolff Featured By Owner Jul 15, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
OH GOD YES! Thank you!
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InfinityYellowA Featured By Owner Jul 14, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Thank you!! I told my grandmother that I didn't want children and she said I was selfish!!! Now I love my grandmother and all that but even I knew that was f- uped!!
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WhatsInAName99 Featured By Owner May 18, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Sadly, I did this very thing.  I got married at 17 (which is allowed with parental consent in my state) and he was eighteen.  We had only been dating for two years, during which time we were both still in highschool.  We had a child way too soon and divorced 2 1/2 years after she was born.  I can say honestly, as someone who made this very mistake, please people, DON'T Get married straight out of Highschool and please wait until your solid in your marriage to have children.  Learn from the mistakes of myself and many others like me.

I love my daughter, though.  I wouldn't trade her for the world.  I hope she learns from the mistakes I made and doesn't grow up to make the same ones.    
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TotallyDeviantLisa Featured By Owner Edited Jul 26, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Marriage sure is a big thing. Good for you for learning to be more responsible with commitments. I'm still waiting for my time. :)
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FeralCity Featured By Owner May 18, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I applaud this. It makes too much sense.
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TotallyDeviantLisa Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Never too much. ;)
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starlywing Featured By Owner Apr 25, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
ha! people can experience the "beauty" of being a parent by adopting!
plus, it prevents your organs from being messed up and displaced during pregnancy
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FeatheryKitten Featured By Owner Mar 22, 2014
I agree!
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TVnGames Featured By Owner Mar 20, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
It's a good thing my mother and father were only girlfriend and boyfriend back then, things could have gotten worse.
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NatariSaru Featured By Owner Feb 14, 2014  Student Traditional Artist

Agreed, though it's not just being married irresponsibly that causes such problems, it's also having a romantic relationship right after your divorce/separation that's a problem, especially when you bring a new life into it. Nobody in my family has ever been married save for my maternal grandparents and paternal aunt. In fact, I was born 3 years after both my parents graduated from college and my sister was born when they were already tired of each other. Well, my parents had a nasty separation when I was 9 (they weren't married) that didn't end well. My mother soon got involved with this coworker of hers named Vincent who eventually moved in with us. He wasn't too bad in the beginning, but after my half brother was born less than a year later, he started screaming at us and beating us. He never physically harmed my half brother(in fact, he spoiled him and put him on a pedestal), but my half brother was very afraid of him. He forgave his father, but he still feels tremendous guilt because of what his father put us through(he's going to be 12 in April). My stepfather's been out of the house for 3 years now (he nearly killed my sister), and my parents have made up, but they didn't get back together. They actually get along better than they did when they first got together and had me.


I know this stamp talks about irresponsible marriage, but even living under the same roof with someone you barely know(a romantic partner of course) is a problem. And yes, having kids in such a situation makes it worse, because too many times, the so-called stepparent acts as if they're God's gift for reproducing and treat the kid's other biological parent (usually the mother) and the older half-siblings like complete and utter shit. I've even warned my brother about getting involved with a woman with kids or getting involved with someone right after he's become a single father because I don't want to see my future niblings (nieces and nephews) go rough the same thing we did. Thankfully despite being coddled by his dad and despite witnessing all that violence, my brother's such a sweetheart, and is really sensitive. As for my sister and mother, they're both okay, but none of u can truly forgive my stepfather for what he's done.

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Lara00 Featured By Owner Jan 24, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I know what you mean,my parents are divorced and had a shitty marriage.
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atomic-cherrywolf Featured By Owner Jan 17, 2014  Professional Writer
this is going in my faves.
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tabbycat1212 Featured By Owner Jan 16, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
*sighs* Sadly, a friend of mine seems to have made this very mistake. She married at the young age of either 19 or 20 (I forget which), possibly because she'd been knocked up. Now, 2 years down the road, she and her husband argue daily about everything and anything under the sun, and the mention of divorce has been brought into the mix on more than one occasion. If they were to go through with it, their almost-2-year-old child would be without one of his parents, and I just don't think that's right.

It's for reasons like this that I say marriage should wait until you're mentally, physically, emotionally, AND financially ready to settle down and be a family. In my opinion, marrying before age 23 or 24 is just too soon.
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HarmonyThroughAnime Featured By Owner Dec 13, 2013
unless you were abused/threatened/forced into it. That is not marrying irresponsibly 
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Lara00 Featured By Owner Jan 24, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Disagree.
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HarmonyThroughAnime Featured By Owner Jan 24, 2014
could I asked why?
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banamaru Featured By Owner Dec 17, 2013  Student Digital Artist
Disagree.
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